The following is compiled of information found on the internet and my own thoughts and experience.

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Definitions

The dictionary: Infantilism

1 : retention of childish physical, mental, or emotional qualities in adult life; especially : failure to attain sexual maturity
2 : an act or expression that indicates lack of maturity, to be infantile
3 : suitable to or characteristic of an infant; especially: very immature

Mine: Infantilism

1: retention of childish physical, mental, or emotional qualities in adult life that can be used for control, pleasure or relaxation.

The AB/DL world:
AB = Adult baby, DL = Diaper Lover. Some people are both, some are only one or the other.

DL's
Focus on the diaper itself, wearing, being changed, masturbation and sex in diapers

AB's
Are closer to age player's but usually focus on a target age where diapers are possible and accepted along with all age-related items such as: a woobie, a blankie, a diaper bag, a crib, pacifier, childish clothing, etc.

Generally to both groups diapers are a sexual turn-on along with diaper porn but not for everyone and not all the time. some days i come home from work and i need to unwind. some people do that with a beer and their favorite lazy-boy or a flogging or a takedown comment from a Dom. I unwind by putting on a diaper, wearing my footed sleeper and sucking on my pacifier. Its relaxing and very comfortable for me, reminds me of a time in my life when i had no worries, no concerns, my every need was taken care of for me. Who doesn't relish those innocent times of care-free play and expression.

DICIPLINE AND DIAPERS WITH BDSM:

Of the many ways to capture and dominate your favorite sub, male or female, is the use of diapers which also offers unique potential. Unlike traditional bondage equipment, which cannot usually be worn in public, diapers are generally hidden and if discovered (intentionally or by accident) are presumed to be present due to medical necessity. Therefore there is considerably more flexibility with diaper bondage and less chance of undue attention from the the public and the authorities.
Traditional bondage serves to restrict a sub's mobility. Since it is in the very nature of human beings to move, each time a sub attempts to find a more comfortable position, it is reminded that the Top has removed this privilege and that it is under the Top's control. But aside from having been restricted, the sub's sense of self is generally intact. If invasive devices such as dildos are used, the sub may feel penetrated by the top but this effect is limited in its duration by bodily functions, among other considerations.

Diaper bondage is unique in that while the sub's body is not normally penetrated (but this can be added easily with insertables) it is the sense of self that is under control of the Top. Toilet training is a cornerstone of our psychological processes. So much has been written about its ramifications for adult life that little need be mentioned here. The effect of diaper bondage is to defeat toilet training, almost always against the sub's will. The injunctions against wetting and/or soiling oneself are the strongest known to us. Therefore, when a sub is confined to diapers for an extended period, these injunctions are confronted within the subconscious of the sub's mind, causing anxiety, turmoil and identification of the Top as a parent figure.

This serves the Top's interests well. The parent figure in our psyche is a giver of comfort, nourishment, and a dispenser of discipline. Since most children learn that rebellion against the parent's authority is futile; a child posture in the sub can be pleasing for the Top. One of the objectives of effective diaper domination is to use discomfort and embarrassment to push the sub to a point where it will appeal the Top's use of diapers and control can then be further enforced.
A sub in diapers is no less dependent on the Top than if it were in bondage. As soon as the sub is placed in diapers, it realizes that she or he has been deprived of the most basic and private decision of adult life -- when and how to relieve oneself. It will not, at first, occur to the sub that attempting to refrain from relieving itslef will be futile, that it is the Top's plan and desire that the sub suffer forced incontinence. The sub will, instead, be initially concerned with the strange feelings of the diaper such as the bulk between the legs which alters its walk and the growing heat caused by the plastic. The second concern of the sub will be its appearance. We are an image-based society and the sub will have cultivated a personal image, which includes some degree of vanity. Forcing an obviously diapered adult to mingle with the public forces the victim to re-evaluate this image, causing more anxiety and distress. It also works when discreetly diapered under clothing because the possibility of being discovered is always present. The Top may take some assurance that anyone who guesses the cause of the bulges under the sub's clothing will presume an innocent reason, but the sub has no such comfort. Every strange look, every whispered comment will torture the sub with the suspicion that someone has guessed that he or she is wearing diapers and therefore less of an adult.

The senses are FAR more acute when wearing a diaper in public, even under clothes. I pay closer attention to things I hear and see because i'm watching for signs that i have been discovered and I become FAR more obedient to prevent discovery. A sub will be more anxious, nervous intencifying the 'head trip'

The most common objection to the use of diapers is that the sub's genitals are bundled out of reach and use by the Top. While this is true, it is only an obstacle when the session is intended to remain indoors. As soon as privacy is lost, so too is the opportunity to fondle the sub intimately. Diaper bondage offers the prospect of intense psychological effect on the sub during times when even traditional bondage would be impractical.

Males and females react differently to the prospect of being forcibly confined in diapers. While this likely has its roots in male vs. female ego, there are some simpler explanations. Males depend on being able to see their genitals to confirm their presence and state. Women's genitals are hidden and she must rely on internal sensations to judge their condition, therefore it is not a new sensation for her to be denied visual contact with her organs. A second point is that all women of childbearing age are, in essence, incontinent for several days each month. The menstrual cycle is a closely guarded subject normally amongst women and they are often raised with injunctions to the effect that they are not to give any indication that they are menstruating, discuss the subject with men, or otherwise acknowledge it as a normal bodily function. "Discretion" is the key word as the woman chooses the pads or tampons necessary to preserve her clothing and an embarrassment. A recent tampon advertisement criticized napkins (sanatary towels) for "feeling like diapers", and no doubt this is true, considering that both disposable diapers and feminine pads must feel alike to the sensitive vulva. Therefore for a woman the prospect of being diapered may offer little novelty. She is used to having to care for an uncontrolled release of fluid from her body and taking great pains to conceal the activity from everyone else. This helps to explain that female diaper fetishists are rare (but much sought after by males of the same persuasion).

Males lack this training in incontinence and its camouflage. They also lack the convenience of full skirts to hide the bulges under clothing. Even the slimmest diaper on a male will cause obvious changes to his outline. And since this outline is a key element of his self-perception, it is here that the Top begins to make inroads in domination.

I perfer to be diapered just thick enough under my clothes to make someone do a 'double take'. not making it totally obvious but create a need for a persont to take a second look. I take this into consideration with how loud the diapers are (crinkle) and how i smell (babypodwer). Furthermore, I dress childishly while remaining publicly acceptable.

Masters and Mistresses wishing to obtain the basic necessities for diaper domination will not have to look far. There is a wide range of adult disposable diapers available at most drug stores. While effective for their intended use, such diapers are usually not absorbent or thick enough to serve well in diaper domination. Plastic pants can be had from medical supply stores and are a definite necessity both for their practical and psychological properties. Disposable adult diapers may be supplemented with several layers. This adds extra bulk between the legs, which is necessary to provide the discomfort that is a fundamental element of the process. On the subject of discomfort and disposable diapers of all types: most manufactures go to great lengths to ensure the wearer feels comfortable and 'dry' in their products and this is done by them using a special 'dry' top layer. It is important that your sub can actually feel when they wet themselves (imagine that!). The use of a simple single thickness cotton liner or a thicker cotton diaper insert is all that is required to conveniently defeated this innovation.

Cloth diapers are easily made although they can be purchased. Generally about four can be made from cutting up a single size flannel bed sheet. Normal baby pins can be used but some purists purchase women's kilt pins to provide a larger, more babyish fastener. Two toddler disposables, taped end to end, and placed inside the cloth diaper increase absorbency and offer protection from soiling.

Whatever the materials used the primary objective for the Top using diapers on a sub are discomfort, visibility, efficiency, and security. Here we can use the five basic senses to guide our play very effectively … touch, sight, hearing, smell and taste.

TOUCH:

Discomfort serves to remind the diapered subject that she or he is indeed in diapers and will, sooner or later, be forced to use them for reliece. All diapers are uncomfortable to an adult unused to wearing them but this discomfort can be increased through a variety of simple measures.
The first discomfort enhancer is bulk. Here we are using the sense touch, especially between the legs. Bulk can be accomplished by adding extra diapers to the crotch of the diaper (cloth or disposable respectively) thus forming a soaker panel which is rigid enough not to be compressed by the sub's walking action. In fact, it will force the sub to walk slightly bow-legged in a manner best described as a waddle. The sub will be unable to escape this pressure between the legs, which in the male especially can be quite uncomfortable. When walking the male's inner thighs will chafe on the diaper and when sitting the extra bulk will be pressed against his genitals. This latter effect is especially useful for long trips on public transit when the male has no choice but to sit and endure whatever his Top has put on him. So the first sense we can use is touch but it can be used in other ways: additional restraints, flogging or patting the diapered butt for example.

The second discomfort enhancer again associated with the touch sense is heat. The presence of the plastic will cause a trapping of body heat and the resulting perspiration will with little effort make a diaper damp and uncomfortable. The amount of heat retained can be increased by doubling up with disposable diapers and adding an extra pair(s) of plastic panties or bloomers. These measures, in turn, can be amplified by coating the diaper area with Vaseline, which impedes perspiration. Consideration may also be given to restrictive clothing such as girdles. It should be noted that most disposable adult diapers become very itchy when worn for extended periods. Therefore extended confinement in them, especially with some of the other measures discussed, will have your sub squirming and begging for relief within hours, whether it has wet and soiled or not.
For special sessions or punishments, shaving the pubic hair is favored as a routine discomfort enhancement since the sub is unable to scratch at the predictable itch and is usually forbidden to touch its diapers and plastic pants. Plus shaving your subs makes cleanup easier too!
Im my oppinion shaving also confirms status in the dom/sub - parent/child relationship. A shaving can be used as a punishment for a person who fears it. If its a forced situation, it confirms who is in control. A shaved person is more childish adding to the authenticity of an age play situation.

SIGHT:

When at home, both male and female subs should not be permitted any covering over their diapers unless it is of a disciplinary or control nature. The shirt-and-diapers uniform is common to toddlers because it offers the ability to instantly discern the condition of the wearers diaper, no less is true of the diapered sub. A secondary benefit is that the sub is forced to see its diapers all the time, knowing they cannot be removed or altered without intervention from the Top. In this state of undress, the sub should be forced to perform chores, which may result in them being observed by strangers. These can be in the form of retrieving the morning paper, hanging out the laundry, or being outside sunbathing for a suitable length of time. A diaper provides a much more modest cover for the lower body than any swimsuit bottom or G-string would do so in the end what is the problem? Visibility can be further increased by the use of coloured and/or patterned panties which catch the observers eye more readily, even more-so for age players.

I am ALWAYS more eager to perform chores, be well behaved an obedient when im diapered. My 'X' used to diaper me most often when chores needed done and i enjoyed doing the chores when in my diapers! In my case she was doing something that made me happy so i was eager to do things to please her.

Some activities require additional clothing. A sub sent to do the laundry in a Laundromat or apartment laundry should be dressed in too-small shorts and a shirt that is cut short enough to ride up the back as soon as the sub bends over. This exposes the top of the diaper, especially if they are coloured as the sub's instinctive reaction is to keep pulling the shirt down which merely attracts more attention.

HEARING:

Disposable diapers and well-worn plastic pants can be noisy and here we are looking at the sense of hearing. The crackling sounds can be quite loud and attract attention from passers by in shopping malls and airports. In addition, these materials are noisy to take off and put on, so if your sub must change its diaper in a public washroom it will not be possible to for it to do so discreetly. Hearing is also important to the general scene certainly in the way you as the Top gives commands. Sounds like the rustle of rubber or plastic, water running, the clank of metal all heighten awareness. The Top thinking to phrase simple questions like, 'how are our plastic panties?' 'Have we soiled our diaper yet?' can be effective on two levels. The first is the simple question which must of course be answered fully, do not accept a simple yes or no. The deeper one is induced by the use of words like 'our' and 'we'. You the Top, are further reinforcing your control as the sub will be well aware that only it is directly effected by the diaper and the 'our' and 'we' only serves indicates who controls the regime. When a person is subject to sensory deprivation, hearing is, an open door to the subconscious. The subconscious is the place where dreams are made, and it detests gaps in information. If it has only half a story, it will make the rest up… so, if your sub can't see you, but perhaps can feel you near, and hear you laugh. The mind will make up the reason you are laughing.
public converstation can further the dom/sub - parent/child situaton, i fear thoes things being said to me in public, so im going to make sure i behave so they will not be said. on the flip side if the sub is mis-behaving, ask thoes questions loudly, in a croud or around others and see how fast the sub's attitude self-adjusts.

SMELL:

Another element to noticability is smell. Adult diaper companies do not yet add fragrances to their products but this is no impediment to the ambitious Top. Males are especially susceptible to the torment of being sent out into public with the sweet fragrances of scented Vaseline, baby powder and lotion preceding him like a cloud. There are two available from http://www.mommiesscents.com which enable you to recreate those familiar aromas from childhood. Mommies Diaper Fresh Scent and Mommies Powder Fresh Scent are two scents designed to make a diaper or just about anything you want smell just like original baby diapers or the sweet, aroma of baby powder. Any sub subjected to these will be very aware of perfumed cloud that surrounds them and have no way of avoiding it! Of course, if desired, the sub can be made to soil itself (laxatives and suppositories are useful) and this is the most humiliating odor factor of all. If so wished, you can get creative with suppositories, ennemas, etc. remind them constantly of their condition with comments about their 'smelly' condition weither its a good "babyish" odor or a bad odor.

TASTE:

Except for long term restraint play where a person is unable to feed themselves, 'feeding' is mostly for age players. The sub can be rewarded or punished here by the choice of foods and toys. Age players enjoy babybottles, sippy cups, bibs and baby food, where as a restrained sub most likely will be extreemly embarassed by these items. In both situations, force feedings with a food of poor taste can be effective for dicipline or good tasting foods for reward.

Try some babyfood yourself sometime, parents u know what im talking about here, some babyfoods are NASTY and others are GOOD. bibs are great for keeping clothes clean, bottles and sippy cups prevent spills and allow a person lying down to be feed. I keep a sippy cup in my car to put drinks in to prevent messy spilling.

In age play situations more often the parent further enforces their power position by changing the little one's diaper. the psycological effects are obvious. However in a domination situation the Dom may choose not to 'lower' themselves to that level and insist that the sub must clean and care for their oun messes. The power position is enforced by deciding when and how the sub is 'alowed' to change. subs and little ones are not permitted to touch the diaper under any circumstances without permission. You have a choice of using either a cloth or a disposable diaper to accomplishes this. If a cloth diaper is used, fit it as normal but lock the pins in place so the sub cannot remove it (you may wish to insert a butt plug before doing so). If a disposable is being used, secure it on with several 'around the waist' passes of wide packing tape. Make sure the tape is very snug because the diaper will sag when wet. When necessary, the sub can be sent to change itsself after being given permission (and the key if locked). When they return, a very careful and detailed inspection of their work may be needed, more public exposure, humiliation and verbal abuse can be implemented here if so wished. In Age play, Changing a little one is perhaps the most intimite event. Here the parent has many opertunities to enforce his/her power position and bond with the little one in a most loving way. If u have ever changed a real child or been in the presence of this occournce, gennerally its made to be a fun event with lots of verbal encouragement, baby talk, coo'ing, etc. if the intent is to 'drive them wild' pay special attention to the genitals to excite the little one near climax, then finalize the diapering to prevent the climax, this affects both in an obvious way and another example of who is in control and who is not. Climax during this event can be the most powerful a little one can experience. Adapt these options to your situation. The sub will initially be comfortable after their diaper change but will be reminded constantly of their eventual condition.

As previously mentioned The element of security is concerned with the ability of the sub to alter or escape the punishment of wearing diapers. This is unacceptable and must be prevented at all costs. There are many strategies, some to secure the diaper, some to secure the clothing which covers it. Securing the diaper allows the sub to be kept in the state of half-undress described earlier. It is also useful if the sub is to be displayed to the Top's friends or is sleeping away from home and the customary bed restraints (if used). It allows the sub's hands to be free, permitting the assignment of chores. Generally a diaper is considered a chastity device and can stop attempts at masturbation. It may be used on both males and females effectively. another side affect of this is not having to worry about another party or individual trying to begin an unauthorized relationship with the sub. Who wants to be with a person who wears diapers?!?! this is another psycological effect that the sub feels "i wear diapers, no one will want me, i better stay with my dom/parent" further strengthening the current relationship on both concious and subconcious levels and making the sub more obedient.

Securing the clothing which covers the diaper is more efficient in preventing masturbation but can be less convenient in other areas. Total body cover suits can be locked at the neck with a small lock and are deliberately made to prevent access to the genital area. This will prevent the sub from removing the garments you have put on it and also playing with itself. Many types of this sort of garment are available as they are used in hospitals and the like. Home made items can be trimmed and styled as you like and if based on shorts, chains at the cuffs will prevent access from that point. Such chains can be discreet, if necessary. furthermore, if u are or know someone who enjoys restraint type play, imagine now how much longer a sub can remain in restraints, if bathroom breaks are no longer a concern!

Once the sub is securely bound in diapers and plastic pants the Top's concern turns to measures which will aggravate the sub's condition. Excessive fluid intake, diuretics and laxatives are the most common measures adopted. In the case of fluids, the properly diapered sub, left alone, will have no choice but to wet its diapers. This can be rewarding for the Top especially during the first few occasions when diapers are used. The sub fights its toilet training all the while knowing that the inevitable cannot be prevented. Unfortunately, subs usually become accustomed to wetting within a few weeks and there is no longer any entertainment value for the Top in this act. At this stage the Top may wish to insert a catheter into the sub before diapers are applied, thus forcing true incontinence. Again, the initial results are pleasing, since the sub is rendered into a true incontinent state. Remember that prolonged use of catheters can cause infection and that these devices prevent ejaculation in the male.

The decision of whether or not to force a sub to soil itself depends on the preferences of the Top. Remember the sub can perform the necessary cleansing operations and be punished if the cleansing operation is not thorough. Forced soiling can produce spectacular results in a novice sub and should be experienced at least once to judge its value. Since all subs attempt to avoid the experience of soiling, some encouraging measures may be required. Generally the process of moving the bowels will be enhanced with the additional fluid intake, but if immediate results are required, suppositories, laxatives and enemas work wonders. If soiling takes place, This may result in whining and begging-off on the part of the sub, which the Top may wish to address at their convienence. A soiled diaper on an adult gives off a distinct aroma. Unless severe humiliation, in the form of knowledgeable attention from the public, is desired, soiled subs should be kept at least 15 feet away from innocent by-standers. One of the most rewarding aspects of forcing a sub to soil while diapered is the knowledge that it confronts one of the major injunctions of psychological development and causes tremendous anxiety in the sub. A wet diaper can feel like a wet bathing suit but the adult sub will not have experienced the sensations of a dirty diaper since being a small child. The knowledge that it has messed itself and is unable to do anything about it until the Top agrees, will torture unmercifully. Soiling is most traumatic for a sub during the first hour after messing. During this time the sub will be aware of little else but the condition of its diaper and the strange sensation of its own material being spread about inside it. However beyond this initial phase, there is little to be gained by prolonged confinement in the messy diaper unless a rash is desired or the sub is being forced to sleep in its mess as a punishment. Cleansing operations are generally easier if attempted as soon as possible.

For the record I am not into messing, i have done it a few times in the past but i dont enjoy it personally. For thoes that are into 'Scat' play, its obvious to see how diaper domination can be used during a session. I do wet, and I cant really explain exactly what it is, but there is a certain satisfaction and sense of accomplishment when i wet myself, not sure why. in my former relationship, she didnt get it untill she tried it herself, then she agreed with me.

Diaper domination makes use of some equipment, which might not be found in routine training situations. The most important aspect of diaper bondage is that the sub must be rendered helpless to adjust, change or remove its diapers. The security devices discussed earlier are effective but are not always appropriate. The most common long-term bondage appliances are rigid mittens, which limit the use of the hands and restrictive clothing. Medical restraints are available without question from medical supply stores or you may fabricate them. Any design that keeps the hand from being able to grasp and prevents use of the fingerswhich may be fastened securely is acceptable. Without the use of its hands or fingers, the sub is helpless to affect its diapered condition. The sub may be left alone in the house suitably restrained and able to perform only limited functions. It may, for instance, be able to answer the phone but dialling out is impossible. Sub's in this condition will certainly attempt masturbation in the form of rubbing themselves through their diapers. Since the sensations produced, if correctly diapered in this manner, merely remind the sub of its diapered condition. The sub may also be told that evidence of masturbation (most obvious in the male) will be punished severely. A useful tell-tail of masturbation, if the sub is in disposable diapers, is the condition of the paper wadding which makes up the diaper core in the area of the genitals. This is a sure sign that masturbation has at least been attempted. The use of only mittens to restrain can produce unexpected and yet pleasing results since the sub feels quite free but yet is prevented from the one thing it wants most, to be out of its diapers or to climax.

Restrictive clothing is used most often when the sub is being put down for the night. A straight jacket is the most effective garment to use but any thing which securely encloses the diapered area and or restricts the wearers limbs is good. One-piece sleepers are most effective here since the sense of confinement adds to the effects of having been forced to wear and use diapers. The footed sleepers are a favorite of age players, visit www.kozykomfy.com for quality examples. If rigid mittens have not been incorporated into the garment they may be added to prevent the sub from removing the garment during the night. Sleepers should if possible cover the feet, be cut generously in the crotch and fasten at the back of the neck. The ability to lock the main zipper is handy but not necessary if mittens and a simple tie are used.

One of the primary advantages of diaper domination and bondage is that a "scene" may be protracted over several days or weeks without undue wear on either the mistress or the sub. Since, aside from being kept in diapers, the sub is able to function normally; there is no need to end a scene in order to provide for nourishment or rest. Therefore scenes can be integrated into normal life, such as the sub being made to attend cocktail parties, sporting events, theatre, and social evenings while in diapers. Each of these situations presents the sub with a different set of potential opportunities for discovery. Longer outings will, of course, require a change of diapers and the diaper bag being present is often a major embarrassment in itself. Regular and frequent physical checks of the diapers should be made with the aim to humiliate and enforce in the mind of the wearer your control over his or her body. Don't forget the senses like hearing? Ask questions in the third person like, ‘how are your diapers?.’ Do we need changing?’ ‘Are your plastic panties uncomfortable?’ 'Do you need your diapers checked?' Follow these with lots of pats on the butt, fussing and adjusting or pulling on the garments.

Diaper domination is most effective when the sub is kept sexually aroused but denied orgasms. Oral servicing of you the Top will see to your needs but I can not stress highly enough that your sub should be kept sexually frustrated. The unusual sensations on and around the genitals will help, as will often the enforced humiliation. I would strongly advise that you be prepared to stimulate your sub when rewards are due just to the point of orgasm as this will reinforce the pleasure/pain aspects of true diaper domination. If you are concerned that your sub is achieving orgasm I would suggest an increase in the padding used and/or the use of a chastity device. For female subs when used under a diaper even a relatively simple belt will prove very frustrating to the wearer and thus very effective. For a male sub I would recommend a CBT device. The wise Top will show compassion when it is called for, but will never allow it to be the occasion for relaxing the routine of diaper discipline or for moderating the punishments that the recipients constantly attract.

Once you start you must be determined in your task and not ease off. Your sub will most certainly try to challenge you and try and avoid the discipline. This is where harsh and strict punishment needs to be applied and with maybe a little 'Petticoat Discipline' which works well for both sexes. If Diaper Domination is done correctly the final result will be a charming, decorative, demure and compliant sub who will be a credit to you.

LINKS:

www.PacifiersrUS.com , a houston based company that make adult sized pacifiers.

www.dpf.com , a California based lifestyle group for general resources.

www.toys4lust.com  and
www.babyapparels.com , a Phoenix based company that Makes fetish and adult baby furnature, clothes and toys.

www.diaperconnection.com , an internet based, AB owned and operated diaper supply company.

hwww.dailydiapers.com, a diaper porn site with lots of free pics, links, and profiles.

www.reincheck.com , a internet company that makes baby 'reins' in adult sizes, great for restraints.

www.aby.com , the BEST AB/DL online community and personals site

www.plastic-pants.com , Plastic Pants online

http://www.adultbabylink.com/sites/rankem.cgi?id=cmax26, Adult baby Links

http://www.dungeonnet.com/, The most comprehensive directory of BDSM websites in the world